Tuesday 27 June 2023

The Friend of the Bridegroom

Preached on Sunday 25th June 2023, kept as the Patronal Festival of the Minster Church of St John the Baptist.

Luke 1.57-66,80  

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I wonder if you can tell me what you will be doing exactly six months from today, to the minute?

 

I’ll give you a clue. It will be Christmas Day!

So, I hope your answer is that you’ll be in church, and if not, I hope it is because you will have been to the Midnight Mass!

 

Why, you might ask, is he talking about Christmas Day today, in the very middle of summer and on our Patronal Festival?

 

It is because both today and Christmas Day centre on a birth; two intimately linked births.

 

On Christmas Day the birth of Our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ; today the birth of his cousin and the one who prepared the world for Christ’s first coming, John the Baptist, patron saint of this church.

 

Two miraculous births.

 

John’s mother, Elizabeth, was past childbearing age, yet still she was blessed with the gift of a child.

 

Jesus’ mother, Mary, was a very young woman not married, not ‘sexually active’, as we might say, yet she too became a mother.

 

Both births, heralded by the Archangel Gabriel, are of God and integral to our salvation.

 

John came to prepare the way of the Lord; Jesus Christ, the Lord, came to save us from our sins by his life-giving death and his resurrection.

 

From all we know of John in the gospels, he would want our focus today, as always, to be on Christ, and rightly so.

 

His consistent message can be summed up like this: ‘look away from me and behold Jesus Christ who is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world’.

 

That’s the message every Christian should promote and live out.

 

So all we say of John actually only ever leads us back to Christ.

 

In that regard John is like the other great saint of the Incarnation, the Blessed Mother, Mary herself.

 

The honour and regard we give to both Mary mother of the Lord, and to John, is always and only inasmuch as they lead and point us to Christ.

 

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As I have been pondering St John the Baptist for today – and I think about him a lot – I was struck by something in the Gospel of St John, John the Evangelist.

 

There is a really significant title that often gets overlooked: John the Baptist identifies himself as the ‘friend of the bridegroom’ (John 3.22).

 

Sometimes John comes across as harsh, austere and without joy or celebration, but he is also a friend: friendship is always a cherished relationship between two people.

 

Yes, John is a witness to Jesus, forerunner of Jesus, the one who cries out in the wilderness – all those things but he is also a friend: a relationship of joy and trust.

 

So, John is also a friend; specifically, the ‘friend of the bridegroom’.

 

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I was officiating at a wedding yesterday, and of course the best man, the friend of the bridegroom, had a particular role.

 

Nowadays the Best Man arranges the Stag do, looks after the wedding rings, gives some Dutch courage to the groom, and makes a speech at the reception and toasts the bridesmaids and the happy couple.

 

In first century Palestine the ‘friend of the bridegroom’ was responsible for the equivalent things no doubt, but also for arranging the match with the bride.

 

The friend of the Bridegroom was a sort of fixer, as well as ensuring the wedding feast went well.

 

John the Baptist is the ‘friend of the Bridegroom’, the Best Man.

 

This points us to something really important.

 

Marriage is one of the deep themes of the Bible: arguably the whole of Scripture sees the relationship between God and humanity in marital terms.

 

In the Old Testament Israel is spoken of as the bride of God (Isaiah 62.4-5; Jeremiah 2.2; Ezekiel 16.8; 23.4; Hosea 2.19-20).

 

In the Gospels the first of Jesus’ signs is set at the heart of a marriage, at Cana in Galilee (John 2.1-11).

 

The sign at Cana is of the refreshed relationship of God and his people, like bridegroom and bride, a marriage with the True Bridegroom present.

 

St Paul reflects deeply on this in his letter to the Ephesians saying that the marriage of a man and a woman, bridegroom and bride, prefigures and echoes the marriage of Christ, the bridegroom, and the Church, his bride, so that Christ and the Church are one flesh, just as husband and wife mystically become one flesh in marriage: as Paul says, ‘this mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church’ (Ephesians 5.32, cf also vv.22-33).

 

What Cana shows is that Jesus Christ brings transformation to renew the relationship between humanity and divinity through the marriage sign, reconciling two different bodies as one flesh, which is why we can say we are one body in Christ.

 

And John is the ‘friend of the bridegroom’: the one prepares the way for the union of divinity and humanity in the Incarnation; the marriage of Christ, the Bridegroom, and his Bride, the Church; of Christ offering to you in his body for you to receive in the Eucharist: ‘though we are many we are one Body, because we all share in the one bread’ (1 Corinthians 10.17).

 

We celebrate the birth of our patron saint today, John the Baptist; in sixth months’ time we celebrate the birth of the Saviour.

 

In the spirit of the ‘friend of the bridegroom’ may we, every day, rejoice in our being united with Christ in baptism.

 

The wedding at Cana points to a banquet, the banquet the Eucharist anticipates: in the words of the Revelation to John, ‘blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb’ (Revelation 19.9)

 

May each one of us, for better for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; love and cherish Christ the Bridegroom till death do us unite in heaven when we are born to eternal life with him. Amen.

 

Monday 12 June 2023

The dignity of being a sinner

Matthew 9.9-13 ‘I have come to call not the righteous but sinners’.

 

Jesus said: ‘I have come to call not the righteous but sinners’

 

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I regularly tune in, on YouTube, to teaching, talks and homilies by American bishop, Bishop Robert Barron.

 

I would thoroughly recommend him.

 

Not only is his content superb but he delivers it in a very engaging way.

 

One of the things he does is address his hearers as ‘fellow sinners’.

 

Sinner? To be called a sinner, even a fellow one, implies a judgement and a negative one at that.

 

In a world that prizes non-judgement over everything – even judgement by God - this is perhaps a challenge.

 

If I am a ‘sinner’ that implies I have got something wrong, I am not all I could be, that someone is judging me.

 

To speak of sin and sinners sounds too negative to many ears.

 

Talk of ‘sin’ and ‘sinners’ can collude with the worst stories we tell about ourselves, especially for people who are routinely run down, dismissed or sidelined.

 

Yet, when we search our hearts, reflect on our lives, we surely cannot fail to see that oftentimes we lack love, we deceive ourselves and others about a whole host of things.

 

That is why at the beginning of this and every Eucharist as we say the confession: ‘we have sinned against you, almighty God, and against our neighbour...’

 

In confession of our sins we take ownership of our shortcomings and our need for restoration.

 

That is the first step towards the goal of holiness of life.

 

So Jesus says ‘I have come to call not the righteous but sinners’.

 

What love!

 

What concern!

 

We are not to be left wallowing in misery, self-pity and sin; Christ comes to raise us up and lift us out of the mire of human short-sightedness and to open our eyes to the glory of God.

 

It is out of love, not condemnation, that Christ comes to save.

 

If you’re not ill you don’t need a doctor; if you are you do.

 

Look at human lives; look at your own life, as I look at mine.

 

We are not in a state of perfection; we are not well: we need a physician.

 

So being called a ‘sinner’ is actually a title of great dignity because Christ came for sinners and it says that he’s something to work with, in contrast to those who shut down the possibility of healing because they believe themselves to be fully well, what Jesus terms ‘the righteous’, the ones he really does judge!

 

So what’s Jesus’ method with sinners?

 

We see it in the call of Matthew, the tax collector and apostle.

 

First Jesus pays attention; he notices the person; he loves the person.

 

Matthew, if he was at all typical of first century tax collectors, cheated people, took bribes and extorted money from them.

 

‘Thou shalt not steal’, but Matthew did.

 

Yet Jesus pays attention to Matthew, notices him and loves him.

 

He loves the sinner; he loathes the sin.

 

After noticing and paying attention to the soul then he invites. ‘Come, follow me’. No strings attached, just come.

 

This goes further, for Jesus shows his love for the sinner by sitting down to eat with them.

 

That was big in the society of Jesus’ day: sitting down and eating with people was intimate and showed you approved of them, even those most disregarded by others

 

Who are the worst people you can think of? Jesus sits down and eats with them.

 

Go further. Who is a person you know personally who you look at with contempt or readily dismiss: he loves them; he says to them, ‘come’.

 

He loves them, as he loves you, as children of God.

 

After all, he says, what physician, what doctor, walks past a person who is unwell and fails to offer any healing?

 

The doctor has it in her power to offer healing and health.

 

The Latin verb salvere, meaning ‘to be well’ is where we get our word ‘salvation’.

 

Jesus is the salvator the Saviour, the one who brings salve, the healing balm of God.

 

Jesus, the Physician of Souls, the saviour, the salvator, pays attention to Matthew.

 

A sinner is not left where Christ finds them and calls them.

 

They are drawn into his love and fellowship: ‘come…follow me’.

 

And lest they – we – get complacent we are schooled in the way of Jesus, the way of mercy that is rooted in his sacrifice on the Cross.

 

When you walk with Christ, the salvator, when you sit down and eat with Christ, the Saviour, you will be schooled in the way of forgiveness and healing which you as a sinner require.

 

Our gospel began with a call to the sinner: come.

 

It ends with a commission: go.

 

Go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’

 

It’s an ancient cry of the prophets of Israel and it is fulfilled in Jesus.

 

His sacrifice on the cross, his death for sinners, is the origin and completion of sacrifice

 

The way we join his sacrifice is through mercy: ‘Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.’

 

God’s mercy does not remove God’s judgement, but tells us that God’s judgement is not vindictive; is not harsh, is not callous.

 

Rather God’s judgement is revealed in mercy.

 

This merciful judgement restores, heals, forgives because it is rooted in the sacrifice Christ made for sinners: as St Paul says, ‘God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5.8)

 

God can do merciful judgement.

 

Fellow sinners, can you?